Relationships

2019 Breakout: Let's DTR (Define the Relationship)

Family. Boo Thang. Bestie. Yourself—Have you ever had a relationship that left you wounded? Or maybe you’re still dealing with the remnants of a rocky past? In this seminar, we will discuss how God wants to expose our hearts, redeem our story, and make us whole.

—Grace Ufot & Jessie Ellison

2017 Relationships Talk- Paul and Samm Poteat

Paul and Samm Poteat give us perspective on the need to see God as greater than all things, even in relationships. God has made us for something greater and we were not meant to be satisfied by anything other than him. They then give two main ideas for dating:

  1. Community is your context for your relationship

  2. Let the gospel be what grounds you

Paul and Samm also give some practical ways to fight for holiness in your relationship:

  • Make your life about knowing Jesus and His gospel

  • Develop strong friendships with your gender

  • Develop strong relationships with the opposite gender, especially in group context

  • Seek council

  • Initiate/respond accordingly

  • Seek council again and continually

Unfortunately this audio was corrupted, but the Poteats did the same talk a few years ago. You can listen to the talk here.

2015 NYC - Relationships Talk by Reid and Nikki Jilek

Reid and Nikki share their story and Biblical principles for relationships. 

Five Guidelines Healthy for Dating

1. The point of dating is marriage - are you ready to get married? If not, maybe avoid dating for a while. 

2. The bible calls us to community - dating in isolation can be dangerous

(Hebrews 10:24-25, Proverbs 18:1)

3. Be clear about your attentions - both the guy and the girl

Genesis 3:6 - warns against male passivity.
Genesis 3:16 - warns against desires for control and manipulation

4. How to pace a relationship

The emotional, spiritual and physical parts of the relationship should all slowly grow equally. 
But the bible clearly warns about saving sex for marriage, fight to live in community and in the light with the physical parts of dating. 

5. Both of you must have an understanding of the Gospel